Aids & Enhancers in the Bedroom: What to Know

Sex isn’t static. It changes. It evolves. It sometimes wants something new and exciting. For many couples, that evolution might include experimenting with sexual aids and enhancers. These are products or substances designed to alter sensation, improve performance, or simply bring a new edge of fun into the bedroom. From the humble bottle of lube to more adventurous choices like pumps and sensation-based substances, the world of enhancers is broader than most people realise. Let's explore the different types of aids and enhancers you can bring into your sex life, their pros and cons, and how to talk with a partner if you’re curious about trying them.

Lube: The Underrated Essential

If there’s one product that consistently tops the list of sexual enhancers, it’s lubricant. Despite being so common, lube is often underestimated. Friction and ruggedness is a top contributor to poor sex. You know... that feeling where something doesn't go in smoothly and causes a minor friction burn, or where pressure could feel nice if it wasn't simply dragging the skin.

Why people love it

1. Reduces friction and discomfort. 2. Enhances sensitivity and pleasure. 3. Widely available in different varieties (water-based, silicone, oil-based).

Considerations

• Water-based lube is compatible with most toys and condoms, but dries faster.
• Silicone-based lasts longer but may not work with silicone toys.
• Oil-based feels natural but isn’t condom-friendly. And don't neglect flavoured lubes! Strawberry, mint, vanilla, or something more adventurous? They can add an extra playful element, especially for oral sex.

Pumps: Exploring New Sensations

Penis pumps and clitoral pumps have long been used both for medical reasons and pleasure. They're essentially a cup that goes over the area, coupled with a pump that removes some air and creates a temporary vacuum. That increase blood flow to the area, creating temporary engorgement and sensitivity. This can result in stronger erections or heightened clitoral arousal.

Pros

• Can enhance sensitivity.
• Creates a visual and physical novelty.
• Readily available online and in stores.

Cons

• Must be used carefully to avoid discomfort or injury.
• Effects are temporary.
• Learning curve for safe use. If you’re considering trying one, read the instructions thoroughly and start slowly! Playing with vacuums should only be done with certified products to avoid injury!

Viagra and Performance Aids

Viagra has become one of the most recognisable performance enhancers in sexual health. It's a blood thinning drug that means blood can be pumped around the body more easily, making erections easier to achieve and maintain. Don't be fooled though - they do not cause an endless boner, you still need to be aroused to get one. It'll just be fuller than before. For couples, trying Viagra can be less about “fixing” something and more about exploring new options for confidence and stamina.

Things to know

• Viagra doesn’t create desire on its own (it’s not an instant arousal pill).
• In many places, it requires a prescription.
• It may interact with other medications or health conditions.

Pros

• Effective for people struggling with erectile issues.
• Can reduce performance anxiety.
• Can feel more pleasurable for the receiving partner (both physically and mentally).

Cons

• Possible side effects include headaches, flushing, and dizziness.
• Should not be used recreationally without medical advice!

Intoxication and Sex

Intoxicated sex can be extremely fun, but should be done with care. Certain drugs cause heightened sensations or euphoria that enhances sex. Many substances are illegal around the world, so always check whether any substance you're considering using is legal in your area, and note that we do not condone any illegal activity. Any risks you choose to take are your own entirely, and we will not be held responsible!

Alcohol

Well known for lowering inhibitions, potentially making it easier to relax. It can impair judgement (which can be dangerous), but also numb certain parts which can lead to new and fun sensations. Pre-consent discussions are crucial to ensure boundaries remain respected!

Cannabis

Often heightens sensory experiences and prolongs pleasure, and many report feeling horny when high. Effects vary widely though depending on the strain taken, the dose, and your own individual response. Some individuals get very paranoid, which can negatively impact the experience - maybe getting high beforehand without having sex will be a good idea to gauge your own reaction.

Sensation-Based Products

Some couples might enjoy experimenting with products that alter physical sensation, ranging from warming gels to balms with cooling or numbing effects.

Tiger Balm

Creates an intense warming sensation inside the muscles. Often used for post-workout muscle pain, though can add some serious excitement to the genitals. But must be used cautiously, because it is not designed to go down there... and certainly not supposed to go inside, if ya know what I mean.

Deep Freeze

Quite the opposite of Tiger Balm (and the same in a way too). Instead of a burning sensation, it creates a freezing and almost tingly sensation. It's another product usually used for muscle pain relief, but also adds a new dimension to a handjob ;) Again, though... read up on it, try out a small patch, and don't put your genitals in danger.

Numbing Creams

This one is to be used even more carefully - a medical cream that puts nerves to sleep, meaning getting it in the wrong places can be bad! But getting it in the right places can really create some phenomenally different experiences. I can't stress enough how important it is that you start with small amounts, and make sure you have no adverse reaction. Before trying any product not specifically designed for sexual use, read safety guidelines and test sensitivity on less intimate areas!!!

How to Talk to a Partner About Trying Them

Bringing up sexual aids and enhancers can feel awkward (and so can many MANY other sex-related discussions). The key is creating a safe, non-judgemental space for curiosity. Start by framing it as curiosity, not criticism. Emphasise that you want to explore together, not fix a problem. A leading cause of awkwardness is not knowing how a partner will react, and they're more likely to react negatively if they feel threatened / like they're a problem. Start small. Suggest trying something simple like lube or a flavoured product before moving on to pumps or medications. Share control by letting your partner have input on what they’d be open to. Use tools to help. Sometimes it’s easier to answer questions in a quiz format than to start from scratch in conversation... which is why we exist!

Why the Right Conversation Matters

Exploring sexual aids and enhancers isn’t just about products. It’s about deepening intimacy, broadening your shared experiences, and keeping curiosity alive in your sex life. The hardest part is often just starting the conversation. That’s where our Sex Quiz can help. It asks the questions for you, compares your answers privately, and delivers a personalised report showing where you and your partner align. It removes the awkwardness and gives you actionable insights to explore together. And not even just a handful, pages and pages worth. It can transform your sex life!