Anilingus 101: How to Try Mouth-to-Ass Play

Let’s get straight to it: anilingus (mouth-to-anus play) can be hotter than hell. It’s also one of the most taboo forms of oral pleasure. That doesn't mean nobody wants to try it though... I mean, you're here after all ;) it's just a difficult one to talk about is all. That's why we included it in our newest category: Mouth Stuff! Whether you’re curious, already into it, or wondering if it’s something you and your partner might enjoy, here’s a guide on how to explore this underrated pleasure zone.

It’s All About Comfort AND Consent

This isn’t a 'surprise' sort of sexual activity... it deserves being mention ahead of time. Not only for physical prep (such as douching and a good shower scrub-down), but some people may need time to warm to the idea emotionally. A quick convo like, “Would you ever be into that?” can open the door without pressure. Of course, if the conversation feels a little too uncomfortable to approach, that's why we exist...

Start on the Journey Down

If you’re going down on your partner, try extending your kisses and licks a bit further. The perineum (area between genitals and anus) is a great bridge, full of nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated. Use their body language, breathing, and maybe the things they're telling you to gauge when it's time to move onto the main event.

What It Feels Like (and Why People Love It)

I know I just said the perineum is full of nerve endings, but you know what has even more? The anus! Many people report it as intensely vulnerable in the best way. Whether you're giving or receiving, it can feel deeply intimate, intensely erotic, and almost meditative.

Who’s Into What? Check In

Not everyone wants to give and receive equally. Many people are open to one side (licking or being licked). Others are into both. There’s no wrong answer here... what matters is clarity. To get that clarity, you're going to need to communicate. We've written loads of blog posts around communicating with your partner about kinks and desires. However, even if you're comfortable having that chat, it's easy to miss key details. We've poured our hearts and soul into creating a thorough quiz that will do the talking for you, identify the shared desires / matches, set boundaries, and help you get what you want out of sex. Give it a try!