How to Bring Sex Toys into the Bedroom

If you've ever fantasized about bringing sex toys into your couple's sex life, you're not alone. From sleek silicone classics to high-tech, remote-controlled gadgets, the world of sex toys has exploded... yet many couples don't play with them together (despite both wanting to). If you’re curious but hesitant, this guide is for you! We’ll fly through the plethora of (common) toys out there to inspire you, touch on why they're orgasmic, and end with how you can introduce the topic to your partner without it turning into an awkward conversation!

Why People Want to Use Toys (Even in Thriving Sex Lives)

Sex toys aren’t just for solo play or “fixing” a broken Sex Life. They're about exploration, variety, and enhancing pleasure, together! Just like a portable charger for your phone... not always necessary, but always nice to have ;) You might want to try a double-ended dildo with your partner because you like the idea of mutual penetration. Or maybe your partner fantasizes about being restrained with handcuffs, or having a vibrator slipped into their underwear while out on a date. These aren’t signs of dissatisfaction... they’re signs of curiosity, intimacy, and trust.

The Non-Electric Toy Starter Pack

When people think of sex toys, vibrators often get all the attention. And when they think of non-electric toys, it's dildos... always dildos. But there’s a whole universe of options that can enhance, or even lead to orgasms (and not just the 'normal' orgasms at that). Popular non-electric toys include:

• Classic dildos – Simple, phallic, and perfect for partnered use.
• G-spot / curved dildos – Designed to hit the right internal angles for that elusive G-spot orgasm.
• Fantasy dildos – Think tentacles, aliens, or even a dildo moulded from your partner’s penis (yes, that’s a real and VERY sexy thing).
• Strap-ons – A cock on a belt which is ideal for pegging, switching power dynamics, double penetration, and lesbians looking for that penetrative edge.
• Cock rings, sleeves & extenders – Dicks get toys too... and these are all about enhancing sensation or stamina.
• Butt toys – Plugs, beads, and more, in a variety of sizes and textures, all made to be inserted into the bum.
• Sex furniture – Liberator wedges, sex swings, or just the right positioning tool to help get that perfect angle for the big-O.
• Restraint & sensory toys – Handcuffs, gags, nipple clamps and more. Hot tip: Materials matter! Silicone is soft and body-safe. Glass and metal invite firmness and temperature into the erotic mix. But always avoid porous materials and stick to reputable brands... otherwise you risk injury and nasty infections.

The Electric Side of the Toy Box

Electric toys take stimulation to another level with buzzes, pulses, and thrusts that fingers and cocks can’t quite replicate. Some popular electric toys to explore:

• Vibrators – Bullet, wand, lipstick, rabbit (dual-action), G-spot, pinpoint, triple-action… yes, triple (stimulates the clit, the G-spot, and the anus).
• Panty vibrators – Discreet, wearable, and often remote-controlled. Great for public (and private) teasing.
• Electric penis toys – Vibrating cock rings, sleeves, or even electrostimulation devices for you real kinksters.
• Vibrating and rimming butt toys – Beads, plugs, and thrusting dildos that do the hard work for you. Many electric toys now work with apps, so you can control them discreetly (or give your partner the power). But it's important to stick to reputable brands and toys that have many reviews, because when voltage and sex-juices are involved, it's always best to be safe than sorry.

“But How Do I Talk to My Partner About It?”

This is where most horny partners get stuck. You really want to strap a vibrating cock ring onto your partner's penis, but you don’t know how to bring it up without sounding like you’ve been secretly dissatisfied. Here's some inspiration you might not have considered yet: 1. Frame it as a mutual adventure - “I read this thing about couples trying sex toys together, and it made me curious. Want to try something new together? Any toys you've wanted to try on me?” 2. Make it playful - “Imagine me in a sex swing… strapped in and unable to move... you could have your way with me ;) (actually wink)” 3. Bring up gifting - “Wouldn’t it be kind of fun to surprise each other with sexy gifts?” 4. Use shared resources. Taking a sex quiz together (like ours) turns exploration into a low-pressure, fun experience. And it helps avoid surprises you might not be ready for! A comprehensive, personalised, discrete quiz that gets shared interests out in the open, as well as building the foundations of amazing sex in a way that suits you both! When choosing which to try, it's far too easy to think to yourself "Which would I want to be approached with?", but you need to use your empathy muscles here. Ask yourself how your partner would prefer to be approached, and when too... find a good time when things are neutral and happy, and when you can tell your partner doesn't have much on their mind. A lazy Sunday afternoon might be ideal (as long as you're not hungover...). Have a read of our blog here, which covers how to talk about sex with your partner, which may help with the conversations about sex toys going forward.

Getting the Green Light Without Ambiguity or Hesitation

The problem with “just talking about it” is that many people don’t know how to start, or they’re afraid of being judged, even when they're given cues to help them. That’s why our Couples Sex Quiz covers all of this in private. You each answer at your own pace, and the overlaps are shared in your reports. We just launched two new categories that are PERFECT for YOU: Electronic Toys and Non-Electronic Toys. Once you're done, you’ll know exactly which toys your partner wants you to use on them, and they'll know which toys you want them to use on you. From double-ended dildos to thrusting, mechanical powerhouses, you’ll get a tailored list of toys that are mutual green lights. And the best part? You don’t have to have a single awkward conversation. You'll each have a shopping list ready for the next celebration (or horny, half-drunk phone scroll).