How to Give Better Blowjobs
If you're giving blowjobs, chances are you'd like your partner to really enjoy (and even crave) them. But great oral isn't just about wanting to be great. It's about rhythm, technique, and knowing when to change things up. Lucky for you, we know the trends. There ARE patterns in what people love, and hate, about being on the receiving end. We recently launched a new "mouth stuff" category, and the insights pouring in are paint a stark yet prudent picture. Here’s what you can learn without even taking the quiz (though, trust us, if you really want to give your partner the best blowjob they've ever had... you'll want to).
Speed Matters More Than You Think
Speed does NOT MEAN FAST! Such a commonly made mistake. But it also doesn't mean slow. A masterful change from fast to slow just before your partner comes is a strong start for a "that's the best orgasm I've ever had!" Monotone motion can feel mechanical, so vary your speed like you would in a good kissing session: with purpose!
The Tip Is Powerful, But Easy to Overdo
The tip of the penis is where the nerve endings live (well, most of them). That means it can feel amazing... but also overstimulated if focused on too long. Alternate your attention between the tip, shaft, and even the base (with hand or lips) to keep sensations fresh. No, we don't mean touching their belly with your nose - gentle kissing and licking will do just fine!
Duration Is Personal... But Variety Wins
Some people want a two-minute tease, while others want you to go until climax. But what most people actually want is... both! Mix up the purpose of your blowjobs. Sometimes for quick foreplay, sometimes a lingering session, and sometimes literally for the sole purpose of lubing that tallywhacker up ready for insertion! Oh, and pay attention to what gets the best reactions... yes, our quiz can get you a straight answer, but so can careful observation. They'll tell you when something felt really good ;)
Depth Isn’t Everything
Yes, deepthroating is a skill. But it's over glamourised and definitely NOT every penis-bearer's dream! So don't make the mistake of assuming its what they want when, in reality, that's not what most actually want... What IS sexy is your ability to control the blowjob:
- Pull back before gagging
- Tease the tip after a deep stroke
- Intentionally go deeper when they least expect it Show you're a pro with surprising changes and a range of techniques.
Teeth. Just... Don’t.
Even the most loving partners agree: teeth ruin the moment. Lips and tongues and cheeks are soft, wet, and smooth. Teeth... are hard and sharp and when they scrape up against the sensitive tip, it hurts! Try curling your lips over your teeth, or letting your tongue cover the lower edge if you’re going deeper. Don't go so deep, and use your hands on the shaft as a buffer to stop them thrusting in deeper. It's easier to stop the front teeth from scraping, but the killer is the molars at the back. They have more points and can't be covered by tongue and lip. And it's excessive boasting of "look how deep I can go" that quickly turns into gagging and discomfort!
What Now?
A great blowjob isn’t about porn-perfect performance. It’s about being tuned into your partner, varying your moves, and reading what gets them off. Try out the tips above and spend time watching and listening to your partner's reaction. Some might not be for them, and some might make you even more irresistible than you already are! Want to find out what your partner actually wants you to do more (or less) of?
