Eat Pussy Like a God
Let's face it, everyone wants to receive better oral - and everyone wants to be the one that gives it. There's no feeling quite like knowing your partner is telling all their friends about how incredible you are when you go down on them! But going down on someone with a vulva isn’t about following a fixed script. It’s about tuning in physically, emotionally, and intuitively. We recently added a “Mouth Stuff” (aka cunnilingus) category to our sex quiz to help you learn precisely how you can give that incredible head to your partner. Here’s what stands out and how you can apply it immediately.
Start Wide, Then Zero In
Kissing the inner thighs, the mound, and the labia can be sexy... but don’t linger too long. Treat it like foreplay: build anticipation and then focus on the clitoris or G-spot area before excitement turns into anger, and sensitivity becomes overwhelming. One big mistake? Staying around the edges too long. Try starting from making out, kissing slowly down the length of the body (with a pit stop at the nipples if your partner is into it), and when you're getting close to the vulva, make a left (or a right) down one of the thighs. There's nothing quite as teasing as thinking you're about to get tongue-on-clit action, and just missing it. Want to step it up a notch? Try using your hands too - if you're kissing one thigh, why not run your nails down the other? When you're ready to move to the main course, focus on the outer edges first. Kissing and licking on the outer edge of each labia very gently is a perfect gentle segway to the main event.
Tongue Technique: Master the Classics
If you've ever watched American Pie, you'll be familiar with some of the more famous techniques. But are you using them intentionally? Nothing is quite as stale as one tongue-straining movement for 10 minutes. Switch things up with these:
Tongue Tornado
Swirl the tip of your tongue around the clitoris in circles. It might take some time to find it and get under the clitoral hood, but since the tongue has more nerve endings than the finger, it'll probably be easier to find (plus your partner will let you know audibly when you've hit the spot). Go fast, then slow, then fast, then slow... and make sure to switch to other techniques to avoid tongue-straining!
The Pancake
Stick your tongue out, over your chin, and flatten it wide. Now you've got a big, wet surface that you can use! Press in above the clitoris area, and use your entire head to create movement (up and down, side to side, all around). This technique allows you to really play with pressure - you can go as light or hard as your partner likes.
Suck & Kiss
Just as you'd use a straw when drinking, make an O with your lips, press them against the clit, and suck in gently (or not so gently). Then, use your tongue inside your mouth to flick a now more sensitive clit! Beware of sucking too hard though... you're not giving them a hickey here, simply drawing more blood into an erogenous zone.
Above all though, it isn’t picking one... it's about moving between them based on your partner's response. We cover more techniques in our sexual quiz, and the report at the end will mean you get a VERY clear idea of exactly what your partner likes... techniques, pressure, intensity, duration - you'll have what you need to give them the oral they really want!
Speed and Pressure Shouldn’t Be Static
Too many people default to a fixed rhythm. But most vulva-owners want a change in pace. Think of it like a DJ adjusting the tempo: faster, slower, pause, resume. Same goes for pressure: experiment with light fluttering, firmer strokes, and everything in between. Though know that if they say "keep going", they mean "keep doing exactly what you're doing - don't change". This is more common when they get close to an orgasm... sometimes a very specific action, pressure, and speed will deliver the goods. But switching things up also avoids the occasional neck, tongue, and cheek cramps ;)
Make-Out Energy Is Underrated
"Making out" with someone's vulva (using passion, movement, and even little moans) brings emotional intensity and variety, which feels so incredible. And it's so simple to do... you're simply French kissing your partner's down below.
No one is born knowing how to eat someone out. But being willing to learn, tune in, and adapt? That’s sexy as hell. Even if you're comfortable asking your partner what they want (and, let's face it, most of us aren't), you might forget to ask a couple crucial questions. Let us do the exploring AND talking for you, not only for oral, but for so so SO many more categories, by taking the Couple's Sex Quiz with your partner.
